Reblogged: What It Really Feels Like When Someone You Love Cheats On You

Reblogged: What It Really Feels Like When Someone You Love Cheats On You

Cheating on someone is one of the worst (I repeat – WORST) things you can ever do to someone. To you, it might have been all a game, but to them, it might have meant everything.

Whether or not you’re doing it to fill a void or just for the thrill of it, when you cheat on someone, you’re doing more than just hurting them. You might be unaware of the consequences of your actions, but let me tell you, for someone who has been cheated on, it will always be some sort of reminder to them – it will always haunt them. It is a concoction of heartbreak, anger, regret, anxiety, and shame all rolled into one.

When you cheat on someone, you’re telling them they’re not good enough for you. That you never loved them.

You may beg to differ, but how can you put someone you truly love in such a position? To make them doubt their self-worth? To make them question everything they thought they knew about you? To make them believe that their trust was completely misplaced?

“Did I do something wrong?”
“What could I have done to prevent it?”
“Why did this happen?”
“Am I not good enough?”
“Why did you do it?”

– are questions you’ll ask yourself over and over again when you’ve been cheated on.

You don’t cheat on someone you love. Period.

When you cheat on someone, they’ll always be emotionally scarred. They’ll have their walls up because they don’t want to ever be hurt that way again. To feel like your world is crumbling, to believe that things like that happened, but just not to you. You see it in movies all the time, but we all know what happens in the movies and what happens in real life are two completely different ball games altogether.

They won’t let just anyone in; and even when they do let someone in eventually, they’ll always be guarded.

They’ll be paranoid, and you can’t blame them for it. Even if they’re in a new happy relationship, they’ll carry the hurt and the emotional baggage from the previous relationship into their new relationship – whether it be conscious or not – and it can’t be helped. They’ll always be suspicious, but don’t blame them for it; they’re just afraid that the same thing will happen to them again, and they can’t go through something as painful as that ever again.

They’ll want to trust again, but it’ll be difficult for them. They would take forever to learn how to trust, and how to be okay. Even if they’ve come to the rational conclusion that their cheating ex is a horrible person, you’ll somehow still fear that every future partner has or is cheating on you. Congratulations, you’re now an emotional wreck and a mess inside, and you’re going to spend every waking moment trying not to imagine the worst because you believe you’re completely broken.

When you cheat on someone, what you really mean to tell them is this: “I don’t love you. I don’t respect you, and I don’t care for/about you. I didn’t think about us, and how this would affect us. I was only thinking about myself.”

Is just one person not enough for us anymore? Aren’t we supposed to just find one person whom we think is worth it, and always stick by them through the good, the bad and the ugly?

When you love your partner, it means you respect them. And when you cheat on them, you’re betraying all of that. Isn’t it absolutely apparent that loyalty is fundamental in any relationship? We don’t need a Guide Book for Dummies for that, do we?

So please, leave if you must, but don’t cheat on someone you love, because that is the worst kind of damage you can do to someone who loves you. 


Reblogged: Musings

I am somewhat strange, difficult, and not your kind of perfect
I stay hidden behind prose with a box of secrets waiting to be unpuzzled
And for a long time I havent felt what it’s like to be in the state of utter bliss
With a faint whisper, I say to you
Distance can be traversed
Time can be reversed
Scars may be evident
But beyond these walls, don’t stray
Seek further
Sorrow will be buried beneath the ashes
We will find beauty, smooth and easy
And for the rest of my days
I’ll get lost in your gaze

Reblogged: 60 Quotes that will Change the Way You Think

Life can be shitty at times, but that’s just how it is. Things won’t always turn out the way we want it to be; that being said, I hope we still do look at the brighter side of life. (I hope!) But if your mind is already clouded with too much bitterness and incertitude, then I think the things you’ll read below might be really useful to you.

So I came across this article online that contains quotes and sayings about life– that everyone must live through. I find some of it really inspirational and I thought I must share this with you all; just so you know, this could help you in some way if you are either struggling with “life” or dealing with issues and problems about some stuff. I know, we all go through those paano-nang-gagawin-ko phase/s all the time at some point and sometimes all we need is some words of wisdom to fire ourselves with enthusiasm. As it says in the title “60 quotes that will change the way you think”– true enough, I believe. I hope you take the time to read each one of them and maybe learn from it. Free your mind from negativity and brush aside the uncertainty!
(Psh wish I could do the same.. the irony, right?)

  1. You cannot change what you refuse to confront.
  2. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
  3. Don’t think of cost.  Think of value.
  4. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  5. Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.  Read Rich Dad, Poor Dad.
  6. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
  7. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so.  Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
  8. Making one person smile can change the world – maybe not the whole world, but their world.
  9. Saying someone is ugly doesn’t make you any prettier.
  10. The only normal people you know are the ones you don’t know very well.
  11. Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.
  12. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.
  13. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
  14. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
  15. Making a hundred friends is not a miracle.  The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you.
  16. Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak, sometimes it means you are strong enough and smart enough to let go and move on.
  17. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, Albert Einstein, etc…
  18. If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
  19. Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world; choose the one who makes your world beautiful.
  20. Falling in love is not a choice.  To stay in love is.
  21. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
  22. While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy.
  23. Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.
  24. You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  25. In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.
  26. When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.
  27. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  28. There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person.  True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were.
  29. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.
  30. You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now.
  31. People are more what they hide than what they show.
  32. Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.
  33. Don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.
  34. Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.
  35. Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.
  36. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you.  It takes someone really special to stay in your life and show how much they love you.
  37. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don’t save it for a special occasion; today is special.
  38. Love and appreciate your parents. We are often so busy growing up, we forget they are also growing old.
  39. When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.
  40. Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
  41. When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.
  42. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
  43. Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
  44. When you’re up, your friends know who you are. When you’re down, you know who your friends are.
  45. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
  46. If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.
  47. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
  48. The smallest acts of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
  49. Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.
  50. Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.
  51. When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.
  52. You don’t drown by falling in the water.  You drown by staying there.
  53. It’s better to know and be disappointed than to never know and always wonder.
  54. There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.
  55. Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you.  Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.
  56. If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past.  If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.
  57. What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.  Read The Power of Habit.
  58. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  59. Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.
  60. If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

Never underestimate the power of the human mind.

from: Marc & Angel Hack Life

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Reblogged: God Comes First. College Comes Second.


Because Christian students need to remember that God is in control.

It’s that time of the year again. Midterms, papers, discussion boards, etc. are overwhelming us. It’s like we have to choose between sleep or social life.

For us as Christians, it becomes a hard situation. Suddenly, deadlines become more important than prayer, and the inbox of our emails more relevant than reading our Bibles. It almost makes sense to think that since the paper we are writing is due at midnight, that that is our priority. That our GPA is all about studying and relying on our knowledge and capacity to make it.

It certainly involves all of that. But we sometimes forget that when we, as Christian students, gave our lives to Christ and we no longer own ourselves. That means we are no longer in control of our lives. We lost our lives, so that we could be found by Him, and when He found us He bought us with His precious blood taking the control of our lives and leading us to a better place every day.

Personally, I have been having very hard days full of homework, papers, quizzes, and tests. Consequently, I realized I was pushing back my relationship with God because I thought it was not as important as all my homework and things I had to do in order to meet the deadlines. But I always was stressed out and always felt frustrated, and when the results came out as not expected, it was a powerless feeling.

In the middle of my chaotic week, a dear friend reminded me that everything you do, you must do it for the glory of God and that there was no better or higher satisfaction than living everyday for Him. Then I heard the testimony of another friend, who said, “Ever since I started to read my Bible one hour every day, I’ve been having time for everything. This is my best semester of college so far!”

“Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him, and he shall bring it to pass.”

Psalm 37:5

This is a verse I learned when I was little and my parents always have mentioned it. But it doesn’t mean anything to you until you claim it and make it your own. College is the place where God planned for us to get to know Him for who He really is, and not just as the God of our parents. We are by ourselves now, and it’s where God becomes real to us and we realize that we need Him more than anything in our every-day lives. Psalm 37:5 has become real to me, and I can truly say that it is true. If I commit my everything to God everyday, He will bring me through!

No matter how much homework, projects, or meetings you may have, don’t dare to think that leaving God aside “for later” is gonna work. God comes first in our lives. College comes second. Only then will our lives will be in order.

Reblogged: 14 Ways You’ll Know that They Don’t Love You Completely


1. They’ll go if you let them. It’s one thing to not be the one pushing someone away, but it’s quite another if they go when you let them. That part of an ending relationship is always the make-or-break it, because when someone really loves you, threatening to go kicks their ass into high gear and reignites the spark that drives them to work for you again.

2. If any of the following does not come naturally: conversations, any worthwhile segment of time for one another, sensations of happiness or contentment. If it takes time, it takes effort, it doesn’t flow naturally and mutually, it isn’t love.

3. They give you up for the chance to “explore their options” aka be young, wild and free. I would never discredit the importance of doing our own soul-searching and what-not, but unfortunately, choosing doing so over your relationship means they value the possibility of finding someone else over the certainty of having you, and it says a lot if you really think about it.

4. You wouldn’t be “in a relationship” if you didn’t have physical/sexual relations– without them, there’s nothing there. Relationships can be sustained off of a connection that is physical and only wades the surface, but I guarantee that is a dim light that will burn out sooner or later.

5. They don’t respect your wishes, especially when they mean a lot to you, and most especially if they are otherwise petty and generally insignificant. These acts matter most because it’s the least self-sacrificing to honor them.

6. You sacrifice your time and energy more than they do theirs. Your efforts aren’t met equally.

7. They’re needier than they are giving. When you really love someone, you put them before you do yourself; you don’t use them as a go-to person to fill your emotional needs. When you really love someone, said needs are met just by loving them.

8. You hesitate to tell them personal/intimate things that aren’t otherwise flattering about yourself. This usually isn’t a reflection on your ability to open up, but rather that your partner will be judgmental or critical or unaccepting.

9. Your relationship grew out of friendship, similar interests, or convenience, and they are still the only things pulling or keeping you together. In other words, you grew into each other, but love didn’t grow between you in the process, (and the two can sometimes be hard to differentiate.)

10. The best times you’ve had together aren’t the ones facilitated by external stimuli that make the experience great. Anybody can happily go to a concert and out to a gorgeous restaurant because, obviously. Hello. A person who really loves you will be even happier to sit next to you in sweatpants and watch Netflix/do nothing but talk all night.

11. They say what they’re looking for out of your relationship are things that they could honestly find anywhere. It’s not about appreciating you, it’s about filling a role.

12. There’s an expiration date, or there was one at some point.

13. They don’t care about the little, insignificant parts of your day. Someone who loves you will call you up to ask what you ate for lunch because love makes us weird like that.

14. Sigh to this one because it’s the most glaring sign that someone doesn’t really love you but somehow it’s the most overlooked: it’s when they don’t actively engage in your life, keep in contact, or let you know they are undoubtedly interested. It couldn’t be more straightforward, but we like to conjure up all these reasons and excuses for people when it boils down to the same truth.

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“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”

— Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things

Reblogged: Long-term Relationship Realities


1. You don’t have to see each other every day. If you can, then why not? But you don’t have to nag each other about you or your partner coming over just because you haven’t seen a glimpse of each other for the day (yet). For long distance relationships, if you can insert that five-minute Facetime before you head for work (and before he hits the sack), then great. However, you don’t feel it a requirement for you to start your day right and for him to cap his day off with it. And this isn’t about not making time for seeing each other, it’s just that you’ve reached a point in your relationship when you’ve realized the difference about being there and being clingy. Minus the Skype, Facetime and whatever video call apps you use, you are present. And he knows that.

2. You don’t have to update each other of the most minute of details like if you’ve already eaten, what you had for lunch, etc. every. single. day. You aren’t absorbed in the world you’ve created just for you and your boyfriend. Your boyfriend coexists with all the other characters and elements of your world. He’s a part of it – maybe a major part of it – but NOT it.

3. You don’t impose your friends to be his friends and vice versa. If they can be friends by themselves without your pushing and shoving them together, wouldn’t that be a bonus? But you respect both your guy and your friends and know that how you relate to his friends (or how he does to yours) isn’t an area where anyone could pass a judgment to your compatibility as a couple.

4. You don’t (try to) impress each other with the most expensive of gifts. If both of you can afford it is a different story. What I’m saying is there are some couples who spoil each other (or just the other) with very pricey items when that single present already equates to a month’s total of his or her net pay. You’ve reached a maturity with finances and both of you would rather plan on your anniversary getaway or a major investment for your future.

5. You don’t use any filter (finances filter, family filter, girlfriends/boyfriends filter, exes-filter, etc) when you talk. Everything is out in the open. Honesty has always been the best policy.

6. You don’t torture yourself with boredom to death by pretending to like what he does for pastime. Your guy enjoys video games; you enjoy your books. Your guy enjoys outdoor sports; you enjoy a cup of coffee in your little nook. He listens to pop music; you worship The Script. While you give a chance for each other to get a peek of your world, you don’t force him into being in yours.

7. You don’t care what he sees anymore when you’re without makeup and/or fresh from slumber. You’re past those days when you thought that you always have to put your ‘best face’ forward. You’ve become comfortable with being all natural. You’ve seen your beauty without makeup in his eyes.

8. You don’t support him in all his rants and complaints about the world. When he needs a good sermon, it’s you he hears it from. If he’s wrong, you tell him. There’s no sugarcoating when you think he needs a slap of reality. You don’t condone his wrong acts, you correct him. You don’t feed him with false “it’s okay”s.

9. You don’t act like a curfew officer anymore. You know he’s going to have to make some time for his friends and you know he’s going to have to stay some nights out. You know him well to be sure that he’s going to go home when he thinks it’s time. And you respect his judgment of “it’s time”.

10. You talk about the specifics of the future – ten years, twenty years from now. You share dreams of tomorrow. You see him in the big scenes of what lies ahead. You see him as your partner in accomplishing these dreams.

11. No buts, no ifs. He is your ally. Whatever, whenever, wherever. It’s always going to be you and him against the world. You can take on whatever life throws at you because you know he will always be somewhere there – either holding your hand before that big jump or just an inch behind you as you take that most dangerous step that you have to take by yourself. But you’re never really alone in the most literal sense; you will always have a sidekick.

12. You value his thoughts. He values yours. He has a say on the major changes in your life so as he does to those in yours. His opinion is taken in earnest because you know he’s one of the few people in the world who would sincerely and selflessly want the best for you. He would give it to you straight and simple. Sometimes, his thoughts would open you up to new wavelengths of thinking, make you affirm those thoughts that you already hold or make you totally say no to some that you haven’t been sure about.

13. You don’t really see or consider him as a boyfriend anymore. He has become more like a brother? Err. No. He’s more like a brother and lover combined. He’s somewhere between those two. Not a brother, no longer a boyfriend, not yet a husband. LIFE MATE? That’s more like it. #

Source: Long-term Relationship Realities